“Hey Kids, I’ve Got a Pre-Need Plan!”: A Baby Boomer’s Guide to Breaking the News

So, you’ve done it. You’ve taken the plunge into the realm of adulting so advanced it could qualify as its own Olympic sport. You’ve got a pre-need funeral plan. Bravo! Now comes the fun part—letting your family know without turning Thanksgiving into a therapy session.

First things first: don’t make it weird. This isn’t a scene from a soap opera where you clutch your pearls and announce, “Gather round, children, Mama’s got something serious to say!” Instead, channel your inner Kay Hoflander—lighthearted, a touch irreverent, and unapologetically you.

Start with a zinger. Maybe over brunch you casually drop, “You know how I’ve always been an overachiever? Well, I’ve planned my own send-off so you don’t have to. You’re welcome!”

If they stare at you like you just announced you’re moving to Mars, keep going. Explain the benefits. “It’s all handled! No bickering about what music to play or whether to serve chicken salad or finger sandwiches. Spoiler alert: it’s neither. I picked lasagna.”

Sprinkle in humor to lighten the mood. Tell them, “Look, I didn’t want you kids scrambling to find a decent picture of me for the obituary, so I’ve pre-approved my favorite. Yes, it’s from 1982. No, I don’t care.”

When the initial shock wears off, let them ask questions. Be prepared for curiosity, some chuckles, and maybe even an eye-roll or two. That’s okay. This is how Boomers roll—practical, proactive, and occasionally a little cheeky about the whole aging thing.

Most importantly, remind them why you did it. “This isn’t about being morbid; it’s about making life easier for you. Think of it as my last act of love… and one less thing for you to argue about.”

And if all else fails, just toss in, “Besides, now I’m officially cooler than your Aunt Linda. She doesn’t even have a will.”

See? Easy-peasy. Go ahead, Boomer—share your plan and keep your family laughing all the way. Just save the karaoke playlist for another time.